A Piece Of Advice

So I am a little late on the challenge to blog every day in May, but I wanted to contribute to this topic too because I think it's a huge part of where I am today. I tend to be one of those people that everyone goes to for advice, good or bad, pretty or ugly, I tell it like it is. Sometimes a blessing, and a curse. When I read that yesterday's (now today's) topic was giving a piece of advice I knew immediately what I wanted it to be.

My advice is simple, and easy. When you have the choice between being negative or positive. Choose positive. Allowing yourself to dwell in negativity only further prolongs the process. I know sometimes it's easy to fall into the pity party trap of hating your life and everyone/everything in it..When you get to that point, remember this advice and just start thinking about what you're good at, or things you're blessed to have..When we let negative win, it can destroy our days, sometimes weeks. Time is valuable, and it should be spent wisely. If you know you have control of the situation, let yourself feel a certain way, but don't dwell.

People always tend to ask me why I seem so happy all the time, and the truth is no one is happy all the time. It's absolutely impossible. I have learned that the most important thing to remember , is how you take everything that happens to you. You choose how you're going to react, and how you're going to digest certain situations. We can't control what happens, we can however control how we respond to it.

Details : Bag // Courtesy of GGL  Shirt // Marshalls, Skirt // Urban Outfitters, Necklace //Gift ,

 Rings // Vintage & Etsy , Shoes // Nordstrom

Things That Make Me Uncomfortable

I wanted to contribute to Jenni's Blog Every Day In May challenge, and this is the first topic I really loved. This topic spoke to me because it's something most of us don't really talk about, especially because it leaves us open to scrutiny and can also make us feel vulnerable. Either way, I actually think it was pretty interesting reading everyone's responses, and also noticing how many things I agree with on other people's lists. Without further ado , here we go.

>> Confrontation 

Surprising enough? yes. I literally hate fighting. I am the first to stick up for myself or share my opinion but once things get heated, I want out. I shut down, and I literally don't know how to function in stressful situations. I will avoid them at all costs, or just disappear in order to process the situation. I am a firm believer in communication, but once arguments reach a certain limit I start to instantly feel uncomfortable and I retract into my shell.

>> Listening to nails being clipped

UGH. Tell me why some guy was clipping his nails on the train into NYC the other day, I literally almost died from cringing.  Save that for when you're in the bathroom alone, I don't want to hear it, or watch it fall on the ground.

 

>> Having to describe myself or my skills

 BLAAAAH. This is always an awkward one for me. This also goes hand in hand with accepting a compliment. It's usually extremely flattering to hear comments about people enjoying my work or asking me to describe myself but I can't help but feel weird about the whole thing. I think I just need to believe in myself more, and maybe it wouldn't be so uncomfortable, but either way, I feel like a big doofus.

>> Posing for outfit shots when people are staring

Come on guys, it's super awkward. And all my personal style bloggers can agree with me. Nothing kills the mood like a random passerby staring at you and pointing. I feel like I start to look weird and I start making weird faces. The hand on the hip is all of a sudden the worst and most uncomfortable pose ever, and I can't be natural.

What are some of the things that make you uncomfortable? Be sure to share on Jenni's blog!